I have heard so many people say that the teen years are the hardest years. Full of self-doubt, confidence issues, bad decisions, and terrible haircuts. It’s true they are some of the hardest years of our lives. Let’s face it they are downright awkward. But if you think back you learned and grew from every bit of it. The good the bad and the ugly.
As I think about all the tests we are put through during our teens I can’t help but tie it to all the people I’ve heard saying “thank goodness that 2019 is over. The last 5 years have been horrible.” Which I believe is their truth. I in no way am taking that from them. If I’m being honest I have seen my friends and family members go through super tough times and I have had them myself. But I wanted to shed some light on positive points, and highlight that out of all of that sucky stuff you became better, stronger, and more confident for it. Also, remind you it’s 2020 baby! Those teen years are over!
Here are some things I learned over the past year to help me realize that while things may have been tuff you have the power inside you to gracefully make those tuff times better.
Focus on the things that you are thankful for. Don’t get that mixed up with not being able to recognize and feel the impact that bad things happen and are gonna hurt. Realize hurtful things are still going to happen but sit back and count your blessings. Because from a dark cloud comes rain and rain makes things grow. With growth, all things get easier.
Surround yourself with a solid positive support system.
These people aren’t your Friday night fun “yes” friends but people that mentor you from their heart. People you respect, you look up to, people who are there to cheer on and push you and your ideas. These are supportive people that care even when your solutions or ideas are a tad far fetched.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help or advice.
You can’t do it all on your own. After all, it takes a village and you are only one person. I would bet if you have the right people in your corner they will jump at the thought of taking time to help you through any tuff situation.
Stop obsessing over what they say.
Who the heck are “they” anyway. Worrying about what they say is only holding you back, wasting your time and I would bet causing you some sort of anxiety. Nobody has time for a panic attack when you are trying to do epic things.
Trust you are a good person and are doing the best you can do.
Aka: get out of your head. If you make a mistake forgive yourself, learn from it and take action to make the next day better. Trust me you can’t move forward if you are living in regret.
Make time for you.
If you need to say no more to things you don’t want to do or are always doing things that make you miserable. It’s not persons asking fault you can’t feel better. Nobody can make you do things you don’t want to do.
Stop letting people make you feel guilty.
If you are happy and they are not that’s on them. You are not responsible for their happiness. They are.
My message behind this is GO after your passion. Love yourself. Grow from your mistakes and give yourself to yourself. You and the people around you will get so much more from you if you are you.
Don’t tiptoe around trying not to be quiet. Put on your loudest heels and make as much noise as you can walking down the runway of life. Because what you have to say makes a difference, your opinion has an impact, and you deserve to stand tall.